Starting to be economically independent is one of the things that I’m looking forward to. Being economically dependent on other people is one of the worst things ever no matter if it is your parents or people you like. The fact that you have to ask someone for financial help is annoying because whenever you want or need something you know you are not going to get it right away and you have to wait until they can help you. This is uncomfortable because you can’t say anything because it’s not your money. You just have to wait on the other person and that just doesn’t feel right. But instead, if you work and manage your own money you don’t have to tell someone every time you need something and wait until they want to help you.
I know economic independence is hard because you have to take care of everything on your own now and you cant rely on your parents to help you. But at the end of the day, it is going to be worth it.
Being the older sister has its advantages and disadvantages. It can be one of the best things but also very stressful. Being the older sister can make you feel like you have more “power” because your other siblings have to obey you. For example, in the car, the passenger seat is always yours because you’re the oldest. But being the oldest child is not always good because your parents are more strict with you. It’s impossible to enjoy your time because you have to babysit kids that are not even yours.
You also always have to put care in everything you do because you’re their role model. I think that I’m doing a really good job being a role model for my sisters because I always do the right thing, I’m a good student, daughter, and friend. But being a role model is not always good either because you have this pressure on your back that you always have to do everything perfectly because if not then your siblings are going to do the same thing as you. Then you’re going to be the bad one, you’re parents are not going to be “proud” of you and they are just going to say that “you’re not a good example for your siblings.”
No matter the struggles, and fights that we had with our siblings we will always defend them from other people and give our life for them. We will always love them with all our hearts because they will always be our siblings and we have to love them and defend them from everything.
If I’m going to do something I always try to make sure that I want to do it and it is not just because other people want to. The majority of the time society is always trying to tell people what to do or not to do and this causes a lot of people to have self-esteem issues because of all the comments that society makes. People start making changes in their life because they start feeling less or feeling that what they do is not enough just because of societal comments. We have to stop thinking about what other people think about what we do. Before we do something we have to confirm that we are doing it for us and not someone else. We have to do things that make us happy first.
We have to stop doing things to please others. The right people that deserve to be in your life will accept you with your imperfections, these people are not going to judge you and criticize you. If we keep wanting to please others we are never going to be happy because we are going to be dependent on what the other person likes. Basically we are going to be living for somebody else rather than for ourselves.
Take care of those who you call friends. There are a lot of people that are claiming to be friends with you but they fake the relationship. I have “friends” that don’t support me in my interests as they should. They are always looking for something bad in it and they are not happy for my happiness, they are just haters saying they are friends. We have to take care of ourselves because envy doesn’t kill but mortifies and having these kind of people around you only slows you down.
Having people that “love you” around you can be the best, but you have to take note of who is really with you, and not trust everyone that says they are your friend. There are a lot of people that are close to you and you call them friends but they are not your friends. You have to be selective and cautious when selecting a friend, not everyone deserves to be called that. But it is good having a fake type of person in your life because they will help you learn that you cannot call everyone a friend, and it will help you grow personally.